Recently we set up our photo booth at a high school prom. I'm always amazed how this generation is so comfortable in front of the camera. No awkward poses or smiles, and every image is social media picture perfect! It was a wonderful group of polite young adults celebrating this right of passage. Gorgeous dresses & perfect hair, bow ties & cumber buns, corsages & boutonnieres filled the room as they danced to the music and awaited the crowning of Prom King & Queen.
They may think that prom is the most important night of their life, but it's really just a four letter word full of the many emotions that plague us through high school and beyond. Most likely it's not the first dance they've attended, and certainly won't be the last. If you could go back in time what would you tell your high school self? I would say embrace the happy moments, celebrate your differeneces, learn from mistakes, forget the humiliation, don't sweat the small stuff, carefully pick your battles and then fight for your life, and never stop dancing!
We all have those moments from high school when we want a do-over. Erase the humiliation and hope no-one was looking. Back to my belief that everything happens for a reason, but sometimes the why can be much further down the road. A few anecdotal stories - fact, fiction, or in between. We'll never tell!
High School Crushes & Heartache
Your world comes crashing down breaking your heart into a million pieces when the guy you've been crushing on asks someone else to be his date for the dance. Eventually your pick up the pieces and put your heart back together, put it behind you, dive into new life experiences, meet the man of your dreams and begin making memories. So many crushes in high school, who was that heartbreaker?
Excited, Feeling Cool, Then Mortified
You meet a cute college guy at the local dance hall. He's home for the holidays and takes you on a few dates. You feel so cool... until you and your friend decide to find out where he lives. It's a frigid Minnesota night and somehow you end up in a snow filled ditch right in front of his house. You're mortified, then relieved when you realize he's gone back to college. There's still the matter of the car you need to tell your dad about. No texting, FaceTime or messaging back then, so after a few akward letters that love story quickly fizzles, and he was never the wiser about the car. If only we had cyber stalking back then!
Fear, Acceptance, Faith
And then it comes. An invitation to a dance you never wanted to attend. At first your pretend it never happened, then you politely decline, but eventually accept the inevitable. You find new friends who will help you get through it. Did your high school self ever imagine you'd spend six weeks with the brainiacs who became scientists and now all want to dance with you? The dance floor will be crowded and you'll all share a common bond, but will all be different in so many ways.
The party has started and it will be a long one. Everyone says you have a good attitude and are handling it well. You're finding humor and gratitude at this dance. There are moments when you become the wallflower crying in the corner, but quickly get back out there and show off all those dance moves your son taught you. The sprinkler is just one of many!
Life is just one big dance. If you stumble, find the positive, then rewrite the choreography.
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4 Comments
Mar 30, 2018, 2:25:32 PM
Diane Draper - Love and prayer do surround you! The love of God would never allow such a difficult dance unless He is giving you all you need to dance through to good health again! Take courage. I am keeping you close in prayer as many are.
Mar 28, 2018, 8:21:42 PM
Karen Conroy - I'll be praying for you daily, Debbie, on your journey back to good health! Love the positivity...and, your journey entries!
Mar 28, 2018, 7:28:08 PM
Carol Groetsch -
Mar 28, 2018, 7:22:39 PM
April Cardwell - Keep blogging!